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교수 제자화리더쉽 프로그램
I. 강의 개관
우리의 강의 목적은 제자화 사역의 원리와 특성 그리고 운동철학에 관련한 이론과 실제들을 겸비한 헌신된 성령 충만한 그리스도인(리더그룹)을 세워 주님의 지상명령이 캠퍼스에서 성취 되도록 적극적으로 돕는데 그 목적을 둔다. 제자화 리더십 전수 훈련 (지도자 과정)은 제자화 리더십에 관련한 핵심 교육과 실천 그리고 점검을 통해 각 학과 와 연구실에서 실제적인 제자화 운동을 일으키도록 돕는데 있다.
이 강의가 끝나면, 우리는
1. 캠퍼스선교의 실제와 기독교수의 사명을 이해하고 실천할 수 있다.
2. 제자화 선교공동체운동을 이해하고 실천 할 수 있다.
3. 복음전도의 실제와 전략을 배우고 실천 할 수 있다.
4. 포스트모던니즘시대의 선교 전략을 이해하고 육성에 적용할 수 있다.
5. 선교현장을 위한 조사 및 연구를 통해 전략적인 선교에 참여 할 수 있다.
6. 예수님의 삶의 목표와 전략을 이해하고 적용할 수 있다.
7. 열매 맺는 제자화선교 가운데 피해야 할 함정 및 핵심요소 이해하고 적용 할 수 있다.
8. 열매 맺는 제자화팀의 구성요소와 운영을 이해하고 실천할 수 있다.
9. 운동의 관점에서 하나님의 지상명령과 제자화 선교를 배우고 참여할 수 있다.
III. 본 훈련의 특징
1. 쉽게 배우고 쉽게 전수하는 교육과정을 제공한다.
2. 어떤 상황과 환경에서도 쉽게 전도와 육성의 연결이 이루어진다.
3. 전도부터 제자화 육성과정까지 전 과정을 짧은 시간 안에 배워서 적용할 수 있다.
4. 훈련의 과정 속에 이론, 관찰 그리고 적용을 직접 체험 함으로서 훈련의 진행 과정 중에 실제적인 전도와 양육이 이루어진다.
5. 제자화 리더십 전수 훈련과정이 마친 후 모든 훈련생들은 순원들과 함께 나눌 풍부한 성경교재를 제공받을 수 있다.
IV. 강의 내용 및 기간
1. 시 간 : 9 시간
2. 강의 방법 : 이론과 토의 / 실천 과 점검
(각 과정에는 실천과제 및 점검 포함)
3. 실천과제 : 매주 과제 / 전도 4명 이상
V. 강의 내용
1. 기독교수의 정체성과 제자화 선교공동체운동의 이해
2. 포스트모던시대의 Evan-bridge 와 커넥트 고찰
3. 복음전도 와 기독교수의 현장 전도 전략
4. 선교현장(학과/연구실)에 대한 조사 및 연구
5. 예수님의 선교목표와 제자화 선교원리
6. 선교 공동체의 시작과 함정들
7. 선교 공동체의 구성요소와 운영방법
8. 영적 운동의 이론과 실제
VI. 제자화 사역 코칭 과정
A. 목 표 : 선교공동체가 설립과 선교리더십 개발
기 간 : 훈련이 마친 후 각 교수님들과 상의 후 결정.
B. 내 용 :
1. 사역 정보 조사 및 평가
2. 사역 전략 나눔 및 제공
3. 사역 전략 세우기 (SPP)
4. 선교 자원 지원 및 코칭
5. 제자화 공동체 빌딩 코칭 제공
6. 그룹원 멘토링 지원
www.cccfaculty.org (회원가입을 하시면 다양한 정보를 함께 공유할 수 있습니다.)
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Conflict Resolution Skills
Building the Skills That Can Turn Conflicts into Opportunities
Conflict is a normal part of healthy relationships. After all, two people can’t be expected to agree on everything at all times. Learning how to deal with conflict – rather than avoiding it – is crucial. When conflict is mismanaged, it harms the relationship, but when handled in a respectful, positive way, conflict provides an opportunity for growth, ultimately strengthening the bond between two people. By learning these skills for conflict resolution, you can keep your personal and professional relationships strong and growing.
In This Article:
Understanding conflict in relationships
Conflict may feel more threatening
Successful conflict resolution
Quick stress relief
Tips for managing and resolving conflict
Understanding conflict in relationships
Conflict arises from differences. It occurs whenever people disagree over their values, motivations, perceptions, ideas, or desires. Sometimes these differences look trivial, but when a conflict triggers strong feelings, a deep personal need is at the core of the problem, such as a need to feel safe and secure, a need to feel respected and valued, or a need for greater closeness and intimacy.
Conflicts arise from differing needs
Everyone needs to feel understood, nurtured, and supported, but the ways in which these needs are met vary widely. Differing needs for feeling comfortable and safe create some of the most severe challenges in our personal and professional relationships.
Think about the conflicting need for safety and continuity versus the need to explore and take risks. You frequently see this conflict between toddlers and their parents. The child’s need is to explore, so the street or the cliff meets a need. But the parents’ need is to protect the child’s safety, so limiting exploration becomes a bone of contention between them.
It is important to acknowledge that both parties’ needs play important roles in the long-term success of most relationships, and each deserves respect and consideration. In personal relationships, a lack of understanding about differing needs can result in distance, arguments, and break-ups. In workplace conflicts, differing needs are often at the heart of bitter disputes. When you can recognize the legitimacy of conflicting needs and become willing to examine them in an environment of compassionate understanding, it opens pathways to creative problem solving, team building, and improved relationships.
A conflict is more than just a disagreement. It is a situation in which one or both parties perceive a threat (whether or not the threat is real).
Conflicts continue to fester when ignored. Because conflicts involve perceived threats to our well-being and survival, they stay with us until we face and resolve them.
We respond to conflicts based on our perceptions of the situation, not necessarily to an objective review of the facts. Our perceptions are influenced by our life experiences, culture, values, and beliefs.
Conflicts trigger strong emotions. If you aren’t comfortable with your emotions or able to manage them in times of stress, you won’t be able to resolve conflict successfully.
Conflicts are an opportunity for growth. When you’re able to resolve conflict in a relationship, it builds trust. You can feel secure, knowing your relationship can survive challenges and disagreements.
Conflict may feel more threatening to you than it really is
Do you fear conflict or avoid it at all costs? If your perception of conflict comes from frightening or painful memories from previous unhealthy relationships or your early childhood, you may expect all present-day disagreements to end badly. You may view conflict in relationships as demoralizing, humiliating, dangerous, and something to fear. If your early life experiences also left you feeling out of control and powerless, conflict may even be traumatizing for you.
If you view conflict as dangerous, it tends to become a self-fulfilling prophecy. When you go into a conflict situation already feeling extremely threatened, it’s tough to deal with the problem at hand in a healthy way. Instead, you are more likely to shut down or blow up in anger.
Healthy and unhealthy ways of managing and resolving conflict
Unhealthy responses to conflict:
Healthy responses to conflict
An inability to recognize and respond to the things that matter to the other person
Explosive, angry, hurtful, and resentful reactions
The withdrawal of love, resulting in rejection, isolation, shaming, and fear of abandonment
An inability to compromise or see the other person’s side
The fear and avoidance of conflict; the expectation of bad outcomes
The capacity to recognize and respond to the things that matter to the other person
Calm, non-defensive, and respectful reactions
A readiness to forgive and forget, and to move past the conflict without holding resentments or anger
The ability to seek compromise and avoid punishing
A belief that facing conflict head is the best thing for both sides
Successful conflict resolution depends on your ability to regulate stress and your emotions
Conflict triggers strong emotions and can lead to hurt feelings, disappointment, and discomfort. When handled in an unhealthy manner, it can cause irreparable rifts, resentments, and break-ups. But when conflict is resolved in a healthy way, it increases our understanding of one another, builds trust, and strengthens our relationship bonds.
If you are out of touch with your feelings or so stressed that you can only pay attention to a limited number of emotions, you won’t be able to understand your own needs. If you don’t understand your needs, you will have a hard time communicating with others and staying in touch with what is really troubling you. For example, couples often argue about petty differences—the way she hangs the towels, the way he parts his hair—rather than what is really bothering them.
The ability to successfully resolve conflict depends on your ability to:
Manage stress quickly while remaining alert and calm. By staying calm, you can accurately read and interpret verbal and nonverbal communication.
Control your emotions and behavior. When you’re in control of your emotions, you can communicate your needs without threatening, frightening, or punishing others.
Pay attention to the feelings being expressed as well as the spoken words of others.
Be aware of and respectful of differences. By avoiding disrespectful words and actions, you can resolve the problem faster.
In order to do this you will need to learn and practice two core skills: the ability to quickly reduce stress in the moment and the ability to remain comfortable enough with your emotions to react in constructive ways even in the midst of an argument or a perceived attack.
Quick stress relief: The first core conflict resolution skill
Being able to manage and relieve stress in the moment is the key to staying balanced, focused, and in control, no matter what challenges you face. If you don’t know how to stay centered and in control of yourself, you will become overwhelmed in conflict situations and unable to respond in healthy ways.
Psychologist Connie Lillas uses a driving analogy to describe the three most common ways people respond when they’re overwhelmed by stress:
Foot on the gas. An angry or agitated stress response. You’re heated, keyed up, overly emotional, and unable to sit still.
Foot on the brake. A withdrawn or depressed stress response. You shut down, space out, and show very little energy or emotion.
Foot on both gas and brake. A tense and frozen stress response. You “freeze” under pressure and can’t do anything. You look paralyzed, but under the surface you’re extremely agitated.
Stress interferes with the ability to resolve conflict by limiting your ability to:
Accurately read another person's nonverbal communication.
Hear what someone is really saying.
Be aware of your own feelings.
Be in touch with your deep-rooted needs.
Communicate your needs clearly.
Is stress a problem or you?
You may be so used to being stressed that you're not even aware you are stressed. Stress may be a problem in your life if you identify with the following:
You often feel tense or tight somewhere in your body.
You're not aware of movement in your chest or stomach when you breathe.
Conflict absorbs your time and attention.
Learn how to beat stress in the moment
The best way to rapidly and reliably relieve stress (if you don't have someone close at hand to talk to) is through the senses: sight, sound, touch, taste, and smell. But each person responds differently to sensory input, so you need to find things that are soothing to you.
Emotional awareness: The second core conflict resolution skill
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Emotional awareness is the key to understanding yourself and others. If you don’t know how you feel or why you feel that way, you won’t be able to communicate effectively or smooth over disagreements.
Although knowing your own feelings may seem simple, many people ignore or try to sedate strong emotions like anger, sadness, and fear. But your ability to handle conflict depends on being connected to these feelings. If you’re afraid of strong emotions or if you insist on finding solutions that are strictly rational, your ability to face and resolve differences will be impaired.
Why emotional awareness is a key factor in resolving conflict
Emotional awareness—consciousness of your moment-to-moment emotional experience—and the ability to manage all of your feelings appropriately is the basis of a communication process that can resolve conflict.
Emotional awareness helps you:
Understand what is really troubling other people
Understand yourself, including what is really troubling you
Stay motivated until the conflict is resolved
Communicate clearly and effectively
Attract and influence others
Assessing your ability to recognize and manage emotions
The following quiz helps you assess your level of emotional awareness. Answer the following questions with: almost never, occasionally, often, very frequently, or almost always. There are no right or wrong responses, only the opportunity to become better acquainted with your emotional responses.
What kind of relationship do I have with my emotions?
Do I experience feelings that flow, encountering one emotion after another as your experiences change from moment to moment?
Are my emotions accompanied by physical sensations that you experience in places like your stomach or chest?
Do I experience discrete feelings and emotions, such as anger, sadness, fear, joy, each of which is evident in subtle facial expressions?
Can I experience intense feelings that are strong enough to capture both your attention and that of others?
Do I pay attention to your emotions? Do they factor into your decision making?
If any of these experiences are unfamiliar, your emotions may be turned down or turned off. In either case, you may need help developing your emotional awareness. Read: Developing Emotional Awareness.
Nonverbal communication plays a big role in conflict resolution
The most important information exchanged during conflicts and arguments is often communicated nonverbally. Nonverbal communication is conveyed by emotionally-driven facial expressions, posture, gesture, pace, tone and intensity of voice.
The most important communication is wordless
When people are upset, the words they use rarely convey the issues and needs at the heart of the problem. When we listen for what is felt as well as said, we connect more deeply to our own needs and emotions, and to those of other people. Listening in this way also strengthens us, informs us, and makes it easier for others to hear us.
When you’re in the middle of a conflict, paying close attention to the other person’s nonverbal signals may help you figure out what the other person is really saying, respond in a way that builds trust, and get to the root of the problem. Simple nonverbal signals such as a calm tone of voice, a reassuring touch, or an interested or concerned facial expression can go a long way toward relaxing a tense exchange.
Your ability to accurately read another person depends on your own emotional awareness. The more aware you are of your own emotions, the easier it will be for you to pick up on the wordless clues that reveal what others are feeling.
Humor, judiciously used, can effectively defuse conflict
Once stress and emotion are brought into balance your capacity for joy, pleasure and playfulness is unleashed. Joy is a deceptively powerful resource. Studies show that you can surmount adversity, as long as you continue to have moments of joy. Humor plays a similar role when the challenge you're facing is conflict.
You can avoid many confrontations and resolve arguments and disagreements by communicating in a playful or humorous way. Humor can help you say things that might otherwise be difficult to express without creating a flap. However, it’s important that you laugh with the other person, not at them. When humor and play is used to reduce tension and anger, reframe problems, and put the situation into perspective, the conflict can actually become an opportunity for greater connection and intimacy.
Tips for managing and resolving conflict
Managing and resolving conflict requires the ability to quickly reduce stress and bring your emotions into balance. You can ensure that the process is as positive as possible by sticking to the following conflict resolution guidelines:
Listen for what is felt as well as said. When we listen we connect more deeply to our own needs and emotions, and to those of other people. Listening in this way also strengthens us, informs us, and makes it easier for others to hear us.
Make conflict resolution the priority rather than winning or "being right." Maintaining and strengthening the relationship, rather than “winning” the argument, should always be your first priority. Be respectful of the other person and his or her viewpoint.
Focus on the present. If you’re holding on to old hurts and resentments, your ability to see the reality of the current situation will be impaired. Rather than looking to the past and assigning blame, focus on what you can do in the here-and-now to solve the problem.
Pick your battles. Conflicts can be draining, so it’s important to consider whether the issue is really worthy of your time and energy. Maybe you don't want to surrender a parking space if you’ve been circling for 15 minutes. But if there are dozens of spots, arguing over a single space isn’t worth it.
Be willing to forgive. Resolving conflict is impossible if you’re unwilling or unable to forgive. Resolution lies in releasing the urge to punish, which can never compensate for our losses and only adds to our injury by further depleting and draining our lives.
Know when to let something go. If you can’t come to an agreement, agree to disagree. It takes two people to keep an argument going. If a conflict is going nowhere, you can choose to disengage and move on.